Our newest Grand child, Sarha Lynn Oborn
12/30/2010I was just reading everyone's posts and took special notice of our first granddaughter Kimber's latest post. She is in that scary but "delightful place" called "grown-up but not knowing it". Life is good, she can see that. But since she has spent all of her life up to this point, "waiting to grow up", she doesn't yet believe it. Because she has always thought or was taught that "the grown ups know better", (which is often, but not always true).
What is true is that the the grown ups are in charge.
You are gown up when your parents are no longer in charge and you are. Period!
I understand her flustration and concerns.
"I've been there - done that".
When I had the oportunity to teach a parenting class with my wonderful wife, I would start out asking the question "when did you first discover that you were not your parents?"
That is a very good question for all parents to ask themselves. The answer is of course you have always been you. Parents need to understand that answer, because if they don't they may never understand their children and their children may take a long time to understand themselves.
It took me years to realize that life is a journey not a destination nor a professiona AND happiness is discovering what makes you as a person, truly happy and seeking that.
A number of years ago I was visiting a wealth business man in Mexico. He asked me to tell him about myself, so I told him I had been in the sign business for most of my life and then about what I enjoyed about the sign business. Then to be polite I asked him about himself. He then told me all about his family, including his wife and her parents then about his parents following that he told me about his children and their children. AND then he told me how his family had gotten involved in the business I had come to see him about.
He then remarked that he had discovered that American's always think that their profession is their life and that's a very big mistake. I had to agree.
The picture below is photo of one of my sweet wife's favorate things, which of course makes them one of my favorite things.
This yellow roses Sherry grew at the little white house in Palmer Alaska
Congrats on your new granddaughter, Uncle Paxton. She is just beautiful! Hope all is well with you and Aunt Sherry...still waiting for that visit. If you don't make it this far north, I'll understand and say, "Good luck on your mission!". We'll miss you:) -Dolly
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